|Posted on April 15, 2016 at 2:05 PM||comments (1)|
CHANGE IS INEVITABLE
As we embark on a new era in our country and the world, as a whole, change can be terrifying for us. It is a natural human emotion to experience fear and worry about things we cannot see. As a psychic, I am always asked what an outcome will be for a relationship, a career, and finances. We always want to know when a new career opportunity will come, or when a relationship will get better, or when one will begin, but sometimes those answers are not always readily available to us. Before I started doing psychic work as a profession, and very early on in my psychic development, a good friend of mine, who I go to for psychic readings, once said to me “You cannot know the outcome of everything ahead of time.” I was so upset and asked why. She said “If we know the answers to everything, all the time, then it can affect how we make choices and deter us from the path we are destined to take for learning.”
Although I understood, intellectually, what she was saying, I was still very dissatisfied with this answer. I sat and pondered this conversation for some time, and realized that she was completely right, that if I knew what every aspect of the future looked like, then I would likely not make mistakes, nor would I allow my soul to navigate my path, which is what we are called to do. As time has gone on, and my trust in the process of events, and circumstances has increased, I rarely ask Spirit what the outcome will be for anything. I simply let things unfold as they should, but am proactive in my work toward the things I am looking to achieve. if I am looking to achieve more success in my career, then I take the necessary steps to bring about more success. This is really all we can do. I talk to so many people who are looking for specific things in their lives, and yet, when I deliver the guidance as to how to achieve the things they claim they so desperately desire, there is often this drop in their energy, as if to say “oh…..so I have to do something to make it happen? Never mind.” I am amazed at the number of people I come across who truly believe that change spontaneously occurs. Which, sometimes it does, but not in the sense that your life is outside of your control, more so in the sense that there are events that occur in everyone’s life that we don’t expect, but direction in your life comes from you, and only you.
We may not know what the future holds or will look like a year from now, or 20 years from now, but change is happening regardless of whether we want it to or not. We are afforded the ability to be co-creators with the Universe, and once we realize how much power we have to create the change we seek, we can bring about positive change, not just in our own personal lives, but collectively for humanity. So, as we move into this new era of needed change for the world, may we be directed by love, by acceptance, and understanding that we are truly all One, and although we may look differently or speak different languages, we are still all here to live our best life yet, and we can only do this by being co-creators with the Universe and with each other, not by fueling fear, hatred, intolerance, or bigotry. Allow your own inner Light guide your path to better days, and the change you seek.
|Posted on January 23, 2015 at 11:35 AM||comments (0)|
As a new year has begun, so have our wishes and desires for a year ahead of new things, different things, and better things. We all know about those New Year Resolutions, most of which we just can’t seem to keep, all the while hoping that circumstances, events, and situations change or improve. But as we look at change and making the most of a new year, we must first look at what it is that we wish to change. Simply saying “Gee, I hope this year is better than the last one” is not enough. We must look toward what we desire to change and see what that change will look like, feel like, and taste like.
Your mind can convince you that you are unable, or unworthy of achieving what it is you desire, but we often times overlook the spiritual aspects that are greatly interfering with us moving forward on our true and destined paths. If there are spiritual components involved, which there always are, you must first identify those. Once you have done that, then, and only then, can you begin to strategize your next move.
As humans, we all carry fear, doubt, lack of worthiness, lack of faith, lack of self- love and acceptance. We all carry these to one degree or another, and all, or any of these can derail us from the best of intentions. Part of your job while in a human existence, is to rid yourself of these, as best as you can so that you can experience the human existence from a more positive, self-loving, self-accepting, trusting state of mind. As the saying goes, “It’s all perspective” and this is more accurate than we know. If my perspective is that my desires are too outrageous, too impossible, or too greedy, then this will shape my belief that I cannot, or should not have my desires fulfilled. From a spiritual perspective, many of these limiting beliefs are held in our subconscious mind; therefore, we aren’t even aware that we hold them. But with spiritual healing, guidance from your guides and angels, and loved ones in spirit, you can begin to remove these false beliefs and unhealthy patterns, and replace them with ones that feed your soul and nurture your spirit, all of which will lead you to attaining what it is you are in search of.
If improved physical health is one of your goals, you must be able to see what steps are needed to make that change, then map out your strategy. We know that diet and exercise are key, but what about emotions and pain you may have around food. What if your physical body is bogged down with past life trauma and this is interfering with your ability to get moving?
If romance is one of those areas you would like to see improve, then you must look at what wounds you still carry from past relationships that are interfering with you acquiring the one love you seek.
What about career?….you have been in the same job for some time now, it pays the bills, it’s stable, there is security in it, but what if you are being called, or even pulled into a completely different field of work?
There is so much focus on the external….diet…exercise…finding another partner…changing jobs…but what if the changes you are seeking are really rooted in your spiritual being, rather than your physical being? What if you were able to get to the bottom of the cause of the excess weight you have been carrying around? Or dissect the real reason you repeat the same dynamics in your romantic relationships, one after another? Or you sat with yourself long enough to recognize there is a job out there that is stable and secure, that will pay your bills AND feed your soul? Whatever you desire is within reach. There is nothing that you cannot have, achieve, or acquire, but you must first identify the obstacles that are standing in the way of these wishes. You must also be open to receiving into your life what you are seeking.
Too many times we see people receiving exactly what they have been asking for, and yet, they are so focused on their conjured up idea of “it” that they miss the pieces of it that are already in their hands. If it is love you seek, look around you. You are surrounded by people who love and care about you. If it is romantic love you seek, you must be open to receiving that and being rid of all the fear you have been carrying in relation to romance, and heal the wounds from past romantic relationships so that the one, true, Divine love you seek can come to you.
If you are being called to change careers, then you must have faith and trust that with effort and an open heart, the job that is meant for you will come to you in Divine time, and will be what you have been called to do.
Whatever change you want in this new year, be ready to accept it into your life, and be prepared for it to look a bit differently than you have envisioned it. We always get what we need, in the form that is best for us, so focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want, and open your heart to all the goodness that awaits you.
This year, may your desires be fulfilled, and may you be ready to have all that you truly deserve in all areas of your life.
|Posted on November 7, 2014 at 12:30 AM||comments (0)|
What are Chakras? Chakras are energy center points throughout your body which are connected to your physical, emotional, and spiritual bodies. Each has a specific color associated with it, and energetically they spin in a clockwise motion, and are believed to be in the form of a lotus flower. Each chakra’s lotus flower has a certain number of petals, depending on the particular chakra.
The word Chakra, in Hindu and Buddhist traditions, are energy points through which life force energy (prana energy) moves. In Sanskrit, the word Chakra means “turning” or “wheel.”
There are a number of chakra channels, but the 7 most commonly known, and most significant are the following, in the order in which the energy runs, which is from the bottom of your body to the top:
1) Root Chakra – is located at the base of the energetic body, which is at the sacrum, or bottom of your spine. This chakra is associated with primal instincts, fear, survival, and connection to the earth. If your Root Chakra is out of alignment, you may suffer from sexual issues, feel imbalanced, unsteady on your feet, excessive worrying, and overly concerned with the “what ifs” in your future.
The color is RED, and crystals for healing this chakra are carnelian, and red agate.
2) Sacral Chakra – is located in the lower part of the abdomen, below your belly button. This chakra is associated with reproductive organs, relationships, fear, and digestion. If this chakra is misaligned, you can experience digestive issues such as constipation, inability to reproduce, sexual dysfunction, or unhealthy relationships.
The color if ORANGE , and crystals for healing this chakra are orange calcite, and citrine.
3) Solar Plexus Chakra - is located above your belly button, and below your sternum. This chakra is associated with connecting with your higher self, communication with Spirit, digestion, and is also the channel in which Empaths experience the most discomfort, often believed to be anxiety, but, in fact, it is an overly opened Solar Plexus Chakra.
The color is YELLOW, and crystals for healing this chakra are citrine, and yellow calcite.
4) Heart Chakra (Heart Center) – this located in the heart area, also known as your heart center. This chakra is associated with compassion, love for self and others, unconditional love, and life itself. If you are suffering from a broken heart, or a heavy heart due to some unfortunate circumstance, this chakra will needs extra attention to bring healing energy to it and allow your heart to heal.
The color is GREEN or PINK (you can use either one), and the crystals for healing this chakra are green aventurine and rose quartz.
5) Throat Chakra – this is located in the area of your throat where one would have an Adam’s Apple. This chakra is associated with speaking up for yourself, advocating for your desires and needs, spreading kindness and love/or venom and anger. If you speak negatively of yourself or others, that will create a blocked throat chakra. Other symptoms are: acid reflux, indigestion, coughing attacks, trouble swallowing, or laryngitis.
The color is BLUE, and crystals for healing this chakra would be lapis lazuli, or blue calcite (can you tell I love calcite?!)
6) Third Eye Chakra – this is located in the center of your forehead, between your eyebrows. This is the gateway for “seeing” things of the past, and things in the future. This chakra is connected to your pineal gland (Eye of Ra) and if your diet is heavy in fluoride, as well as other contaminants, you may have difficulty with opening this chakra. This is also the chakra associated with mental illness, so a blocked or overly opened third eye chakra can create what we know as mental health issues.
The color is INDIGO, and the crystals for healing this chakra are amethyst and lapis lazuli.
7) Crown Chakra – this is located at the crown of your head, and is associated with consciousness, and Christ consciousness, your ability to connect with your higher self as well as Creator. You may suffer from headaches, poor sleep, or inability to focus if this chakra is out of alignment.
The color is VIOLET, and crystals for healing this chakra are selenite, clear quartz, or any violet colored stones such as amethyst. Clear crystals such as selenite and clear quartz are ideal because the color “white” encompasses all colors so it can be used as a catch-all for the other colors.
Now, let’s get those chakras in balance and begin seeing how good you feel once they are cleared, cleansed, and purified! Always be sure to protect your chakras once you have cleared and balanced them because they will always attract outside energy, but more than you can handle or process, if they are left unprotected. A simple prayer asking that they be protected from any energy that is not your, or in your highest good is all that is needed. A wonderful CD to use for clearing them is one of my favorites, CHAKRA BALANCING by Sophia, which can be found on Amazon.
|Posted on October 9, 2014 at 3:10 PM||comments (1)|
Karma vs. The Law of Attraction
This week on my show, Soul Awakening, I discussed the parallels between Karma and The Law of Attraction.
Karma is a Sanskrit word meaning “action.” Each action we take, we are repaid ten-fold for that action, whether good or bad. Examples of taking action in life in positive ways is doing something kind for someone, being emotionally available to someone who is suffering, volunteering, donating your time, or some of your treasure. Karma is often viewed negatively, without understanding that Karma is a positive thing as well. It’s concept is “you reap what you sow.” But in Western culture, we view Karma as being a payback for all the negative someone has done, rarely looking at the other side of it, or even applying this concept to ourselves, but more so to others. In Western culture, Karma is also looked at more from a religious stance, in that, God is a punishing God; therefore, He will punish your evil deeds by causing some type of harm, anguish, illness, tragedy to you. In Eastern cultures, the concept of Karma is viewed more in terms of focusing on good deeds, and receiving good in return. In both cultures, it is understood that all actions have a cause and effect, so what you do to others, is done unto you.
In creating good Karma, it is about the intention behind your actions that counts. If you are looking to receive something in return for doing a good deed, or you are available to someone who is suffering because you are expecting they do something for you in return, then all the Universe understands is your intention. The Universe repays you and your action by meeting the same vibrational frequency that went into the action in the first place. If you do a good deed, without expectation of gaining something, and it is from a selfless place spiritually, that is the energy the Universe receives, and mirrors back to you.
In Western culture, The Law of Attraction is based on the Universe’s energetic receptors, rather than religious beliefs. The idea with the LOA is that whatever I put my attention, and focus on, I create more of that. These are classic rules for manifestation. If I am stressed and focusing on all the areas of worry in my life, then I will find more things to worry about and it brings in more things for me to worry about, but if I am focused on all the things in my life for which to be grateful, I will find that there is more in my life for which to be grateful. Yet, in many ways Karma and the LOA are really one and the same. With Karma, the action occurs, and the energy follows and with The Law of Attraction, the intention is set first, and the energy follows.
I know a woman in her 80s and each time she receives an increase in her Social Security, she increases her donations to the charities she has supported for years. She lives a modest life, and never seems to go without, so one day I asked her “Why don’t you keep that extra $20.00 a month that you just began receiving from Social Security? Couldn’t you use the extra money at the end of the month?” She replied “Every month, without fail, I always have enough for my bills, and a little extra, I’m not sure how, but it happens.” This was intriguing to me as she was not sure how, or why she was always abundant with money considering she made very little with Social Security. What I came to realize was that her intention to give to others was from a selfless place, so there were no expectations of receiving anything in return, and as a result, she received repayment ten-fold of the same vibrational frequency at which she put out. This was Karma at work. She believed she would always have enough for herself; therefore, she did. This is the LOA at work.
Our deeds, good or bad, are not repaid with the same deeds, they are simply matched by the same intention, vibration, from which you performed the action.
I knew of a couple who owned and ran a fitness company, where they trained individuals in physical fitness. This couple believed they were being rewarded from the Universe for all the work they did with people because they were financially well off. Unfortunately, this couple was partially financially well off because they routinely overcharged their clients, and cheated them with hidden fees. As a result, this couple struggled with a variety of interpersonal issues, as well as spiritual disconnect, but they weren’t able to see that, all they saw was that their work of getting people in physical shape was being rewarded because they didn’t struggle financially. We can manifest all the material wealth we want, and being financially wealthy is not a bad thing, but if we are not using this wealth for positive means, or we are attaining financial wealth by dishonest means, that is the energy that you create from a karmic stance, and that is the energy the Universe receives and pays back to you.
If you are looking to create more good Karma, then be sure to do things from a selfless place, and if you are looking to manifest more financial wealth, better health, or more abundance of any kind, set your intention, and believe that you are worthy to receive it. If it is in your Highest Good, then you will.
May you experience all the positive Karma you deserve and desire, and may the Law of Attraction work in your favor with each intention, and action you take.
|Posted on July 2, 2014 at 11:05 AM||comments (0)|
DEVELOPING YOUR INTUITION
We were all born with a natural ability to connect with realms that are not seen to the naked eye, but as we age, and we are more tapped into the physical world that surrounds us, and we tend to be less aware of the non-physical world. Children are very sensitive when they are young and are much more tuned into the “other side.”
Before I consciously worked on developing my intuition, my daughter had brought to the forefront of my mind how easily it is for children to connect with spirits. When she was less than 3 years old, she was regularly communicating with three young souls who had been appearing to her. As an only child, I thought she was simply entertaining herself with “imaginary friends” but that was not the case. After further discussion with her, I realized she was actually communicating with deceased souls with whom she had some sort of energetic connection, such as age, and interests. I will admit, initially, I was uncomfortable with this, but eventually accepted that she was a channel for these souls to communicate with the physical world.
So how do you assist your child in developing their intuitive skills? First, have open, honest dialogue with them about the non-physical world. Remove the mystery and fear around it so they can better understand it, and feel comfortable discussing it. A wonderful way to begin is when they are young, is to encourage them to call on deceased loved ones in times of struggle, such as a deceased grandparent. One particular approach I took was reading a book about angels to introduce the concept of Beings of Light for her to call upon in times of need, in part because there were no loved ones she had lost.
We talked openly, regularly, about what she was seeing, hearing, and experiencing so as to lessen the fear she may have been having. We worked together about saying specific prayers asking for assistance and protection, and how to identify something that was troubling to her. One of the major things was assisting her in shutting off her channel to these spirits so she could sleep at night (as this was a perfect time for them to come to her with information, often not even pertinent to her but to someone else in her life).
Another technique we used as she got older was watching unsolved crime mysteries on television. We would watch the first few minutes of a show, pause it, write down what Spirit was giving each of us, then begin watching again, while continuing to take notes, then at the end of the show, compare notes with each other, and see how close we were to the actual outcome. This was fun, and she greatly enjoyed seeing how gifted she was with channeling information from Spirit.
My daughter is clairvoyant (she can see things of the past, present, and future), clairsentient/empathic (she senses things about people such as illness, their emotions, and what they are currently experiencing in their life), and clairaudient (she can hear Spirits speaking). There are an enormous amount of empaths in the world right now, and they are having difficulties managing their abilities because of the intensity of their gifts. Empaths tend to experience what we would call anxiety, panic attacks, being “stressed out” and overly reactive. From my professional experience, these symptoms are not actually medical or psychiatric but spiritual and once the person realizes they are simply a conduit for Spirit to communicate through, and they develop skills to shut off their channel when relaxing or going to bed, they no longer experience these symptoms, or to the same degree. One of the major obstacles for empaths is knowing how to identify the energy they are feeling. More times than not, the person is actually feeling someone else’s energy and emotions. For instance, being in a large group of people can be overwhelming and can trigger these symptoms. The goal is to develop a regular practice of checking in with yourself to see if the anxiety you are feeling is actually yours or someone else. Meditation and quiet time can assist you/your child in learning to turn your channel on or off at will.
For my daughter, the most challenging part of developing her gift has been the “shutting off” of her channel, and managing her own energy so she is not as susceptible to feeling and experiencing other peoples energy. It is a process and takes some time but with diligence you will be able to manage it with ease.
|Posted on June 5, 2014 at 12:45 AM||comments (0)|
“Everything will change when your desire to move on exceeds your desire to hold on”
Alan H. Cohen
One type of reading I do with people is identifying past lives that are currently affecting this lifetime, and then assisting them in releasing those lives in order to make room for the experiences they need in order to move forward on their current journey. I make it a point to address the difference between past life regression versus past life identification, in that, my belief is that we do not need to experience the trauma again in order to release it, but simply identify it so it can bring understanding to confusing parts of one’s life. Because we have no conscious memory of our past lives, we don’t always know what is standing in the way of us moving into our future with confidence and grace. Identifying past lives is a great way to begin the process of letting go of what no longer serves your soul. It is a long process of unraveling your past to get to your present, but it is a necessary part of the process, otherwise, you will continue to experience the same challenging situations and find yourself stuck in a rut of displeasure and frustration. You were not placed here to be tormented, you were placed here to evolve and acquire wisdom and knowledge for your next human experience.
The process has been shown to me like this:
We originate from God, in pure form and as we navigate human lifetimes, we acquire wounds that are in need of healing. The objective is to return to pure form, and once that happens, you no longer recycle back in to experience another human experience, unless you and your Creator agree that it is in the highest good of all to do so. Prior to agreeing to enter another human experience, we meet with a host of Light Beings. Beginning with God, the others include Light Beings with whom we have traveled previously; those who have assisted us in prior lifetimes (Angels, Guides, Ascended Masters, etc.), to those souls to whom we have been related previously (i.e our ancestors).
During the contracting process, you are offered a list of all the areas of your soul that are in need of attention. The list can include (it is always shown to me in alphabetical order; however, this is not an actual list as it depends on the individual) Abandonment, Abuse, Addiction, Betrayal, Conceit, Corruption, Deceit, Disease, Enabling, Envy, …..Neglect, Oppression…..Self-loathing, Trust, Unworthiness….Weight….etc. Once you decide which areas you are willing to address for this next human experience, you are given options of who will assist you in the releasing of these such as parents, siblings, spouses, friends, enemies, etc. and God will assign a specific team to your soul to assist in the process, and this team changes over time depending on the level of growth that occurs, kind of like graduating from one grade to the next, there is new material, and always new teachers.
You may be asking yourself “Why would anyone deliberately choose to endure painful experiences?” Remember that when you are in pure soul form, you are fearless, and there are no human factors involved such as emotions, so you are only doing what is in your soul’s best interest, not trying to decide which path will be the easiest or the least painful, that is where your human self comes in. If I have endured betrayal in past lives, I will experience situations in this lifetime that will offer me the opportunity to experience betrayal again and to handle it either the same way as in the past, or differently, in order to release it from my future experiences, but the choice is mine.
I never know anything about the person I am working with when doing these releasements, so it is always interesting to me to see what past lives Spirit will show me and how those lives connect to the person’s current lifetime. Recently, I worked with a young woman and while describing a particular past lifetime to her and its wounds, she gasped in disbelief, and later explained that I had just described her father’s lifetime and the effects it had on her in this lifetime, which had been causing difficulties for her.
If you are noticing unpleasant patterns in your life, chances are you are carrying old wounds from past lives that are in need of releasing, and the more you carry the pattern, the more the healing needs to occur. Yes, the process can be painful emotionally, even physically, but the more you are aware of the wounds, the easier you can move past them in order to move forward into your future experiences and the less trauma you will carry into your next human experience.
Make the most of your current human experience because that is one sure way to get out of having to repeat some of these things next time Happy Journeying!
|Posted on May 14, 2014 at 12:55 AM||comments (0)|
HEALING - RELEASING CONTROL
“Expectation is at the root of all heartache”
What does it mean to really “Let Go” of something? When people say “just let it go” what are they really saying? Don’t let it bother you? You’re making a big deal out of nothing? Or are they saying “You’re spending too much energy on something you cannot change.” Maybe they mean all of those things and then some.
When I give an intuitive message to someone, I rarely hear or remember the information that I channel, so when people come back to me months or years after a reading with me, and say “Remember? You told me such and such, and it came true!” I can honestly say that I don’t have any recollection of what message Spirit gave them. But, on occasion, when I give someone a reading, Spirit will say to me “This applies to you as well, so listen closely.” That’s when I know, the information is critical to my own growth as well as the person I am reading for.
A few years ago, I read for a woman who was angry with me about a reading I had given her 6 months earlier. She came in, sat down in front of me, was breathing heavily, as though exasperated, and proceeded to tell me about the last reading I had given her. I listened intently for a bit, and finally asked her “What are you angry about?” She replied “Well, you said……….and that’s not how it turned out.” I said “You got the job Spirit told you that you would get, correct?” She said “Well, yes, but it isn’t working out the way I thought it would.” I said “Ok, so the expectations you had of the job are not what you planned for?” She responded “Right!” I said “Who or what about this has you angry? Are you angry with Spirit for giving a prediction that came true? At me for delivering that prediction? At yourself for not being prepared for an outcome you didn’t expect? Or are you angry with this man who hired you and has taught you a very valuable life lesson?” She stared at me for a minute, her face became more red, and her breathing became more shallow, and she finally said “Well, I wasn’t expecting it to turn out this way! I make sure I always have my bases covered and I didn’t have this covered!” In that moment, I felt as though I was talking to my younger self, yet still needing to hear the message for my current self because I had not learned that very lesson as well as I thought I had.
For years, I was always prepared for anything and everything that came my way, or so I thought. I would spend sleepless nights figuring out a plan for every potential issue, obstacle, and outcome. I believed that I was simply being proactive in my journey, that if I was “prepared” then nothing could go wrong. What I learned was that the harder I worked at trying to manipulate the outcome to an outcome I could live with, the less control I had over any outcome. This took me years to realize and see from a different, clearer perspective, and unfortunately, there are times when I find myself still trapped in the desire to control the outcome of an event, trying to convince myself that if I do something, then I am not powerless and that I am in control. It is still a learning process for me because none of us are really in control of anything, we just think we are.
Recently, I had an experience that caused me to look at something I was holding on to and acknowledge why I was not ready to “let it go.” After careful contemplation, and what seemed like endless hours in meditation and prayer, it finally came to me. I was holding on so tightly to a desired outcome that I could only focus my energy, attention, and fear on that one outcome. I was faced with the realization that if I was to walk in faith, then I could not walk in fear because they are mutually exclusive. I remind people of this all the time in the work I do with them, and yet, I was so busy focusing on the outcome, that I failed to hear that same advice for myself. Eventually I asked that the fear be lifted from me so that I could allow the Universe to deliver the outcome that was in the highest good of all involved. It was only then that I began to see all potential outcomes, not just the one I had desired, and let go of all the expectations I had been holding onto, which, in turn, had been causing me such heartache.
Let go and let God is what I repeated all day, for many days, and over time, I came to accept that God knew exactly what the best outcome would be for everyone’s highest good, so I didn’t have to worry myself with the details, but as humans, it is difficult for many of us to relinquish control. In reality, we are not in control of anything, we are just participants in the master plan, and the less we resist the desire to hold on, the easier the journey. If we release any and all expectations we hold, the more we can enjoy the experience of living, and only then do we see that things will turn out exactly the way they are supposed to, not always exactly the way we want them to. I’m getting better at this game called Life, but I still have a ways to go!
|Posted on February 11, 2014 at 10:00 AM||comments (0)|
"Imagine a new story for your life and start living it"
Do you ever feel as though your life is out of control? As though life is happening to you versus you directing your life?
This can be tedious and frustrating. You may ask yourself "Why does this keep happening to me?" I recommend you ask yourself, instead, "What am I missing or refusing to learn from this situation that keeps putting me back here." These two perspectives are examples of life happening to you versus you directing your life. When we keep ourselves in the role of helplessness, or the victim, we are essentially proclaiming to the world that we are not in control; therefore, we hold no responsibility in the outcome of our lives. This is simply not true.
What is true, is that we have no control over others, or the final outcome of an event; however, our thoughts, our actions, and our perception of the event play a major role in the final outcome.
When working with souls, one of the things I make them aware of is that they are in charge of their own destiny. Each soul decides what lessons they will learn before they come into human form, but your human self decides how you learn those lessons. Often times, we find ourselves in challenging situations that seem to be repeating themselves. You may have a boss with whom it is diffcult to deal, and this may be reminiscent of your last boss, and the boss before that one, and so on. When this happens, know that you are being allowed to learn a lesson, but your human self is the one putting you back in that situation over and over again in order to learn the lesson. The lesson may be for you to practice acceptance of others, or to address an issue you may have with authority. Your human self has used your work environment as the arena to learn the lesson, but every time you are faced with a challenging interaction with your boss, you become non-engaged, standoffish, or disrespectful. When you walk away from the interaction, you may feel even more frustrated, angry, or flustered with your boss, dreading the next interaction, rather than actively planning a new approach to interacting with your boss. You are not deliberately or consciously creating challenging interactions with your boss, and that is why it may seem as though you have no control over the situation, but you do. It begins with a new thought, which leads to a new understanding, which leads to a new behavior, which ultimately leads to a new pattern of interactions with your boss.
You are the creator of your destiny and your happiness. Once you realize how powerful you are, you can create the life you have always wished for. The time is now! Allow yourself to think new thoughts about a challenging situation you are facing, put more optimism in the outcome, and watch things unfold differently than they have before.
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“The hardest person to love is yourself. If you can master that, you can master anything.”
Recently, I did a group healing session via my facebook page, Anne Magdalene. As a result, one of the participants and I had an interesting conversation regarding love of thyself. We hear it all the time “You can’t fully love another until you love yourself” or something along those lines, and many of us are left thinking “I don’t have a clue how to love myself,” while others are convinced they fully love and accept themselves. Most of us suffer from some degree of lack of self-love and self-acceptance, and you are having this current human experience to learn about developing self-love, as well as a million other lessons. From personal experience, I have found loving myself to be the hardest form of love to develop. It is easy to love another person, especially a parent, a child, a spouse, but when we are faced with the task of finding a way to love and accept ourselves unconditionally, it can seem impossible.
So…….How do we get there?
Within each one of us, there is a core connection to the Source of Love, the infinity of that Love, and a desire to experience that Love on a multitude of levels, including for ourselves. So much of what you experience in your human experience is designed to teach and encourage you to find ways to express that love for yourself, because the truth is, the more you can love and accept yourself, the more you can love and accept others, not just those that are related to you, or who you are “supposed” to, but those who have no personal connection to you.
It is human nature to give love, as well as to seek love. There is nothing selfish or narcissistic about seeking love from others, but it is the nature in which we seek it that can become the problem. The less love you have for yourself, the more you will seek it in ways that damage your spirit, or the more you will try and fill the void of self-love with ways that weaken your spirit, because acknowledging you may lack love for yourself can be a very scary and vulnerable experience. When was the last time you looked in the mirror and said to yourself, “I love you totally and completely for everything you are.” When we are lacking self-love, it can be so subtle that we are not even remotely aware.
One of the first recommendations I make to people is to begin by paying very close attention to the internal monologue you have running in your head. What are the things you are hearing? Are you hearing “I’m no good at this…I’m going to look stupid if I ask for a raise, they won’t think I deserve it…I have so many wrinkles, look how old I’ve gotten…I’ve gotten so fat, look how big my _______ are….My husband/wife cheats because there’s something wrong with me…” The list goes on and on. These types of false beliefs keep you trapped in a cycle of self-loathing and lack of self-love. Only when you become aware of these subtle, negative thoughts can you begin to redirect your thoughts to more positive, loving thoughts.
Everything I possess within me, is within you, and everything you possess within you is within me. You may exhibit certain traits more profoundly than some of my traits. You may exhibit more confidence than I do, but that doesn’t mean that, at times, you are not insecure. I may exhibit more light-heartedness than you, but that doesn’t mean I am not burdened with sadness, fear, doubt….
So the next time you see a woman (or man) being used, exploited, taken advantage of, or mistreated, don’t spend time blaming her for what appears to be something she intentionally created, but instead, see her as a soul in need of love, especially self-love, and let it be a reminder to you, that the next time you are speaking negatively to yourself, or you are being treated less than what you deserve, it is less about what you intentionally created, and more about your false internal beliefs that keep the cycle of lack of self-love going.
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Healing: Mind, Body, Soul
“Even the darkest night will end, and the sun will rise”
If you are struggling with an ailment, disease, illness, or lack of well being (emotional, spiritual, mental, physical), you are probably wondering why you are experiencing this. First, understand that your soul has made an agreement with your Creator to carry this ailment/disease/illness. When your soul contracts for this, it is because there are things your soul is to gain through the experience that will assist your soul in its evolution, and things for those around you to gain from your experience. These things can be knowledge, wisdom, patience, acceptance, and compassion, to name just a few. There are also things to learn from your anger, fear, frustration, and confusion as well.
Secondly, with any ailment/disease/illness, there are parts of "it" that we can be subconsciously attached to such as symptoms, and ritual of being ill; and parts of "it" that are attached to us. We hear people all the time say things like “I’m bi-polar” or “I have cancer, it runs in my family.” These are statements that create an attachment to the ailment/disease/illness from you, and it becomes part of who you are, and part of your identity. Ridding your soul of the illness becomes more challenging the longer you hold onto the label. We do not have to own any illness or disease, nor do we have to be owned by the ailment/disease/illness.
For instance, a young boy I have had the pleasure of knowing was diagnosed with leukemia when he was 3 years old. He was born to two very young, but devoted, parents. At the time of his diagnosis, his parents were separated, and it was a shock to his parents, and all those who knew and loved this family. The prognosis for this boy was grim, and everyone feared he would lose his battle with leukemia. These young parents began to put their anger and frustrations with each other aside, and pour their love and devotion into nursing their young son to better health.
This couple went on to have two more children, have just celebrated their 11th wedding anniversary, and this young boy, now 10 years old, and free from disease and enjoying the life he deserves. Some believe that this young boy’s experience was to show his two young parents the importance of love, acceptance, devotion, and commitment, in order for their own souls to evolve, and once this was completed, he became healthy and their family continues to thrive.
God decides when you release your ailment/disease/illness; however, if you have the desire to release it, to learn from the experience what was needed, and you no longer identify with the label of the illness, you are working collaboratively with your Creator to release your soul from the need to carry it any further. Healing takes time, patience, and desire, so trust in the process of releasing the illness, and have faith that you can be free from it.
All ailments/diseases/illnesses are multifaceted and the benefits are endless.